Whatever You Nurture Will Multiply
I reme犀利士 mber one of my childhood experiences at 181 Mechanized infantry Battalion, Bida, Niger State, Nigeria. My mother, Mrs. Mary Ogidi (resting with the Lord in glory) sent me on an errand to buy some foodstuffs at the Mami market (a market usually located within military or Para-military formations in Nigeria). Upon return, she gave me two kuli-kuli (groundnut cake), though I was expecting just one kuli-kuli. I asked her the reason for giving me two instead of the conventional format of one kuli-kuli (or another snack) as a reward for obedience. She said it was because she forgot to reward my last act of obedience. So, she multiplied the number of snacks because she felt it’s appropriate to nurture my obedient acts. On the other hand, the same can be said for penalties.
Rewards are multiplied when obedience is nurtured. Likewise, penalties and ill[1]treatment are multiplied when disobedience is nurtured. Needless to say, whatsoever you choose to nurture in your heart will express itself either as a reward or ill-treatment.
A husband who nurtures his wife’s weaknesses and wrongs will find it difficult to escape meting ill-treatment or having ill feelings about his wife. Likewise, a woman who is possessed with the wrongs of her husband may find it difficult to upgrade or nurture her love for her husband. To flourish in love, couples need to nurture their strengths more than they do with their weaknesses; nurturing your spouse’s strength gives you the impetus to generously reward him/her with encomium and gifts that expresses your appreciation for his/her value in your marriage. The multiplying effects in actions are revealed knowledge of nurtured content.
What you nurture over time will find expression in your action, sooner than later. Sometimes, people nurture assumptions about their spouses. The assumptions may be true or false. A story was told of a newly-wed couple; a man locked his wife out of the house and instructed the security man not to open the gate for her. Further instruction to the security man was that he should “tell her to go back to where she is coming from,” then he switched off his phone. The following morning the husband was invited by his father-in-law to his house for questioning. His reason shocked the father-in-law, and I guess it will shock you too. The man said while the wife was late in returning from work, he was nurturing the assumption that she must have been having sex with her boss or colleague in the office to warrant staying late at work. According to him, some friends had told him that wives who claim to stay late at work compromise their marital vows.
So, the more he nurtured that counsel, the more annoyed he was while nurturing the assumption that his wife could be in the office committing adultery. That was what infuriated him to lock her out. This confirms that nurturing assumption(s) can cause avoidable bad omen in marriage. Therefore, when you are experiencing strains and bad omen in your marriage, be sure to evaluate the stuff you have been nurturing about your spouse, your assumptions of his/her actions, reward mechanisms for his/her strength, and like my mother will always do, multiply rewards to keep your marriage flourishing because whatsoever you reward, you nurture into dividends.
👏👏👏👏👍👍👍 Beautiful, may God help us to nurture our strengths and positives🙏
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Assumptions can literally destroy trust
For any relationship that lacks trust it’s bound to be ruined by such negative assumptions
Wow! This is edifying but what if ones assumptions are true?
Impressive! God bless your ministry Sir.
Well said my Oga. Families are going through serious problems and need messages like this. God bless you and your family.
Thanks
A nice write up. Indeed if you nurtured what ever mistake your spouse must have commit, you will have a lot of issues in that marriage, and that will cause alot of problem . Its has once happened to me. I pray to the almighty God to help us understand more of each other, so our unions can stand.
This is awesome, thank you very sir for the piece
Great!!!!
Very correct , it is very bad to occupie your mind with evil thoughts Because it can affect your marriage negatively. May the Lord give us grace to always appreciate our spouses AMEN.
Waw that’s a great insight, that means even in a relationship with a lady whatever I nurture it will come to stay be that.
Very inspiring Sir God bless and keep you for us to keep learning the right ways.
May God Almighty continue to bless you for nurturing His flocks. I am blessed by this submission.
Well said, O.J.!
Positive and/or negative reinforcement (nurturing) definitely affects what is emphasized in our behavior – love/hate, hard work/laziness, obedience/disobedience.